June 20, 2021
LIFE’S HIERARCHY
Life’s Hierarchy is an exclusive club for professional people who live, want to live or want to explore the ‘Dominant’ or submission’ lifestyle and its many manifestations and associated fantasies.
JUNE/JULY PROGRAMME
Discussion – June 22 – ‘Slave contracts.’
Podcasts – June 30 – July 30 – ‘My life my way interview’.
Webinar – July 28 – ‘Finding a slave’
Training – June 16 and 28; July 21 and 26.
Next Newsletter – June 20 – July 20
Blockbuster Blog – June 27 and July 27
Events – July 24 – High Protocol Dinner.
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FEATURED STORY
Every month we will feature one story from Life’s Hierarchy. Here is this months.
He Spanks His Wife Often and She Canes Her Partner More Often
I arrived at his home at 7.00 pm and everyone was there. As I took my chair, I was handed a sparkling water, my beverage of choice for this type on gathering.
Before me were two everyday Perth couples ready to answer my questions and in doing so improve their own understanding of what might be considered by many, an unusual life style.
I directed my first question to a ‘Jim’ a well-dressed man of about 55 sitting upright in his very formal chair. I asked him how he would describe his relationship with the 35-year-old woman to his left. His response was made less surprising, given that she was naked, collared and connected to him with a leash; was – ‘Sandra’ is my property, I own her’.
I turned to kneeling Sandra, unable to look in her eyes as her head was bowed and asked her to describe her relationship with the man sitting to her right. With her shoulders back and her chest projected, she responded with seeming satisfaction, ‘Sir Jim, is my owner’.
Well, you don’t hear that every day, a married couple who are absolutely on the same page when describing the nature of their relationship. What is perhaps even rarer, in both words and body language, they communicated that they were very happy with their arrangement.
So, then I turned my attention to ‘Pat’ and smartly dressed woman of perhaps 40, comfortably seated in a chair similar to that occupied by Jim and asked her to describe her relationship with the man to her right. She turned to gaze on ‘Bill’ with eyes reflecting absolute confidence and said, ‘he is my slave, I own him’. Again, this was not a complete surprise given that Bill, like Sandra was naked, collared and leashed. He also wore a chastity device.
So I turned my gaze to bill, who was gazing directly at the floor ahead of him and asked him to describe his relationship with Pat. There was silence for a moment before Pat said to him ‘You may speak, answer his question’. He did! ‘Sir, she is my owner’. This in turn earned him what my father would have called a ‘clip behind the ear’, which in turn lead to a second, modified response, ‘Lady Patricia is my owner Sir’.
I recently published on this site, an article in this publication in which I asked the question – ‘Are you normal when it comes to sex?’. It was of course a rhetorical question, given that the only useful place for the word ‘normal’ is in front of the word ’deviation’. No one is strictly speaking normal. Everyone has aspects of their nature that might be a little different. Everyone has idiosyncrasies that other do not share. We all have our individual likes and dislikes, our private preferences,
In that article I noted that about 53.3% of men and 64.3% of women liked being dominated sexually. I also noted that 59.6% of men and 46.7% of women like to dominate other sexually.
Well, at this meeting, I had representatives of all four ‘groups’ sitting or kneeling in front of me. Given that none of the parties were having sex at the time of our meeting, there was very limited discussion of sex, there was no evidence that any of the parties were sexually aroused, and i was promising no sexual adventure, it was apparent that in these two relationships, the ‘domination’ went well beyond sex. Questioning of the parties confirmed that not only did domination of those kneeling go well beyond sex, it encompassed every aspect of their lives.
As it turns out, this is not as unusual as you might think. It turns out that such relationships are increasingly common and surprisingly successful and monogamous. Indeed, I am reliably informed that such relationships are often so strong that the ‘slave’ often finds himself or herself itemised in the ‘owners’ will. True story! So that evening Jim and Pat, and their ‘slaves’ spent a couple of hours together discussing the ins and outs (no pun intended) of their relationship. I wanted to understand the dynamics here and my ‘subjects’ were most happy to provide in.
Further, their comments, evidence if you like was entirely consistent with both my reading and my experience.
If you would like to know more, comment, and I will tell the whole story of this interesting night.
If you are interested, I can also tell you the story of my evening with a group of polygamists. That is every bit as interesting. Polygamy is also more common than many think. Surprisingly enough seems to work very well for some couples – or sets of couples.
Do you want to hear more?
Does this subject interest readers?
I will publish another article with statistics demonstrating how Donald Trump was not all that odd when he apparently asked a Russian woman to urinate on him. Mind you, that could be fake news!
NOTICE BOARD
Looking for a playmate? Looking for a couple to dine with? Looking for a waiter or driver – naked or in uniform? Looking for a cleaner or maid – of any gender? Looking for a male or female, Dominant or submissive? What ever you are looking for – send in your requirements to the Moderator for posting here.
To post your requirements on the Club notice board – email the Moderator – lifeshierarchy@gmail.com – and if it complies with the Clubs code, it will be posted in 24 hours.
Do you want to be a playmate? Do you want to dine with couples seeking company? Do you want to be a a waiter or driver – naked or in uniform? Do you want to be a cleaner or maid ? Do you want to offer yourself as a Dominant or submissive? What ever you are want to do – you might just find an opportunity here on our Club notice board. Alternatively you can post your own requirements here.
If you want to take up one of these opportunities, email the Moderator for more information on the opportunity listed here – quoting the number of the opportunity. Email – lifeshierarchy@gmail.com.
While this function has only just been launched there are already opportunities posted that Members might like to take up. Here is an example:
We require the services of male and female wait staff for very special dinners. Dinners will be held throughout the year at various locations in the Perth metropolitan area.
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MESTRA’S THOUGHT OF THE MONTH
Temperature play is a whole lot of fun and is just about as broad a category as possible in BDSM play. Often, it is referring to sensory play, potentially as part of a sensory deprivation or impact scene. Temperature play or variations backwards and forwards from hot to cold can include ginger, chilli, peppermint oil, Dencorub, toothpaste, ice blocks, toys that have been in the fridge, freezer or ice bucket like chain, and knives, hot and cold hands etc etc the only extent is your imagination (and what is SSC). Broader definitions of temperature play can include fire play, ice baths, wax play … again the list is long. Sometimes, you can combine them … but here’s a PSA .. don’t freeze a chilli inside an ice block and then insert it … because the chilli disintegrates on defrosting, and panic, laughter, more panic, fishing around frantically and loads of yogurt to calm the heat ensues. Or perhaps do try it, on reflection was lots of fun.
READ MORE
Write your own story. Fellow members would love to read it.
BLOCK BUSTER BLOGS
Watch out for the Life’s Hierarchy Block Buster Blog on the 27th of each months.
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WANT TO BE INTERVIEWED FOR A PODCAST?
Every month, I will try to record at least two interviews with Members to be published on the site as a podcast. The identity of the Members is of course kept confidential.
Interviews are audio only and take about 45 minutes to record. The resulting podcasts are available to all members and represent an excellent may of sharing experiences.
If you are happy to be interviewed and to reveal your deepest secrets – please email me on – lifeshierarchy@gmail.com
CASUAL MENTORING SERVICES
All members can now book Mentoring sessions with one of our 4 Mentors – for a fee of $30.00
All you have to do is go to the SHOP and book a session with your preferred Mentor.
If you are interested in becoming a Mentor and feel you have the experience to support Members, please email – lifeshierarchy@gmail.com and register your interest.
MENTORING FOR PREMIUM MEMBERS
Premium Members can nominate a preferred mentor. Monthly mentoring sessions of 20-minute durations can then be scheduled on a monthly basis – or more frequently as required. This service is available to Dominant, submissive, male, female, heterosexual, bisexual, pansexual and homosexual, monogamous and polyamorous members.
Mentors can:
Provide comfort and support
Answer questions and concerns
Help address issues as they arise
Provide guidance and ideas
Offer a sounding board
Assist in developing a plan
Provide recommended actions
This service is unique to Life’s Hierarchy and exclusive to members of the club. This service is designed to ensure that members get the most out of their involvement in the D/s lifestyle and their various kinks.
No issues are off limits for discussion with mentors.
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TOPICS OF INTEREST
What topics are you interested in hearing about in:
Discussions
Webinars
Forums
Events
Training
Please email us with your suggestions – CLICK HERE
GREAT STORIES
Members are beginning to take the opportunity to write some really interesting stories. I recommend you take the time to read some of – if not all of – them.
Why not share one of your stories with other members. I know we have some interesting members with interesting stories to tell.
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OPPORTUNITIES FOR MEMBERS
The OPPORTUNITIES page of the Club website provides an opportunity for Members to post or take up opportunities. We anticipate some exciting opportunities being listed in 2021. Have a look at what is listed now, or list your own opportunity. – CLICK HERE
FORUM FOR MEMBERS
So really interesting conversations are underway on the Club FORUM. Have a look, post a comment or open your own discussion. It is easy and it is fun – CLICK HERE
MEMBER SERVICES
MEMBER services currently available include:
Forums – where you can discuss anything of interest
Stories – reading and writing great true and not so true stories
Group chat- chat with Club members in absolute privacy
Podcasts – learn more about the ins and outs of the D/s lifestyle
Discussions – listen to experienced players discuss their experiences
Webinars – an online learning programme
Opportunities – listings of opportunities for members in the community
Shop – where you can buy an increasing number of high-quality goods
Mentoring – one to one conversations with experienced senior members
Services to be launched in 2021 include:
Confessionals – the opportunity to confess and do penance
Gallery – the best Club photographs and videos
Match Making – to help you find play and life partners
Suggestions regarding additional services are most welcome.
Members are the heart and soul of Life’s Hierarchy and as such feedback from members is always welcome. Email – lifeshierarchy@gmail.com . Every enquiry will receive a response.
CODE OF CONDUCT
It is the ambition of the Mentors (the foundation Committee) to develop Life’s Hierarchy into a Club that adds real value to members of the BDSM community and devotees of Dominance and submission. Our highest priority will always be the welfare of our members and in particular their safety, security and privacy. Please bring to our attention any behaviour inconsistent with Club values. Those values include:
Discretion
Respect
Honesty
Honour
Consent
Read more about our values and protocols – all designed to protect members – CLICK HERE
SID D – Moderator