August 20, 2021
LIFE’S HIERARCHY
Life’s Hierarchy is an exclusive club for professional people who live, want to live or want to explore the ‘Dominant’ or submission’ lifestyle and its many manifestations and associated fantasies.
AUGUST/SEPTEMBER PROGRAMME
Discussion – August 23 – ‘Collars and Collaring’
Podcasts – August 30 – ‘My life my way interview’ – 2 new interviews
Discussion – September 22 – ‘High Protocol Dinners”
Training – September 3, 15 and 27.
Next Newsletter – September 20
Blockbuster Blog – August 27 and September 27
Events – TBC
See a whole lot more on Life’s Hierarchy – CLICK HERE
THANKS TO MESTRA AND JESS
The thanks of members and especially participants go to Mestra and Jess for the wonderful High Protocol Dinner they hosted and catered for, in the CBD on July 24, 2021.
It was a fantastic event and sets a great foundation for many such events in the future.
FREE – UPCOMMING ONLINE DISCUSSIONS
Collars and Collaring – August 23, 2021
Training a slave – September 22, 2021
Rules and Protocols – October 18, 2021
High Protocol Dinners – December 14, 2021
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INTERESTING VIDEO
Each month we will post an interesting video. Here is this month’s offering – CLICK HERE
HOST A WEBINAR OR DISCUSSION
If you would like to host a WEBINAR or DISCUSSION, register your interest by emailing lifeshierarchy@gmail.com. Tell us the topic and we will see of we can incorporate you into our programme for the year. We can also provide the technology and audience.
A THOUGHT FROM MESTRA
What do you look for in a good Dominant, how do you choose a good submissive? There are long and involved answers and differences of opinion, however I’d argue one of the factors to at least consider is if they are extending their education.
One of the things I love about kink is the endless opportunities for learning, exploring and growth. The more I Iearn, the more opportunities to learn open up. The more I know, the more I become aware I don’t know.
A Dominant that doesn’t continue to educate themselves is dangerous, becomes stale and will likely start playing outside their knowledge set. A Dominant that continually learns is more likely to provide the safest experiences and increases what exciting play they can offer. I can’t count how many times a cheeky idea has come up and just has to be tested ‘for science’ .. which only happens safety with a Top prepared to educate themselves on the risks and skills required for the activity. If you’re vetting a new Dominant, pay attention to what workshops and discussion groups they’re going to (and what subjects they are learning about).
A slave/submissive is far more interesting and useful if they are constantly learning. Not only upskilling (learning skills to service a Dominant ie shoe care or giving massages, how to set a formal dining table, keeping a butlers book, or how to clean, pack away and care for Master/Mistresses toys), but also for the s types self awareness and personal growth.
Educational classes and discussion groups also provide ideal opportuniities to meet and socialise with other like-minded people, and to meet prospective new partners and assess them from afar.
We’re constantly adding information to Lifes Hierarchy, and welcome suggestions for additional resources and links.
Keep learning. Stay kinky.
xx Mestra
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PODCAST
Listen to three new interviews with community members.
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There are many more just like this on the Life’s Hierarchy site
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WANT TO BE INTERVIEWED FOR A PODCAST?
Every month, I will try to record at least two interviews with Members to be published on the site as a podcast. The identity of the Members is of course kept confidential.
Interviews are audio only and take about 45 minutes to record. The resulting podcasts are available to all members and represent an excellent may of sharing experiences.
If you are happy to be interviewed and to reveal your deepest secrets – please email me on – lifeshierarchy@gmail.com
FEATURED STORY
Every month we will feature one story from Life’s Hierarchy. Here is this months.
Jim, Sandra, Pat and Bill – part 4
In the first part of this series of articles about alternative lifestyles, I introduced you to Jim and his property, Sandra, Pat and her property, Bill. Jim and Pat were smartly dressed while Sandra and Bill were on their knees, naked, collared and with leash.
In parts two and three we examined the lifestyle of Sir James and his slave Sandra. In this fourth and second last part we take a look at the lifestyle of Lady Patricia and her slave Bill. There are clear similarities between these two couples and their lifestyles, but there are also clear differences.
To begin with, Pat and Bill have only been together two years, they have never married, and both are government employees, albeit in different departments. It was also immediately obvious that Lady Patricia was significantly less flexible and considerably more demanding that was Sir James.
There was no doubt that Bill, loved honoured and obeyed his owner. It was also clear that he understood the consequences for not doing so. Throughout the whole conversation, Bill had his eyes directed at the floor and he never spoke without being told to. It was apparent that only heaven could help him if he addressed his owner as anything other than Lady Patricia.
I started at the same place I did with Jima and Sandra, by asking Pat and Bill how their relationship began and whether it had delivered on their expectations. Pat explained that she first met Bill over dinner at a friend’s home. They were both part of a DS community and Pat suspected that friends had engineered the meeting with match-making in mind.
If that is so, it seems to have worked. Some five years later they are still together. But are they happy?
Pat was of course the first to answer. She provided an unambiguous – ‘yes’. When instructed to answer, Bill responded, ‘yes Sir’, with an equal absence of ambiguity. So, what made them so happy? Pat told me that she was a natural ‘leader’ and that Bill was a natural ‘follower’. It was a ‘match made in heaven’ she said. ‘I love being in absolute control, and Bill loves no having to worry about anything much’, Pat said. Bill added that, ‘I enjoy serving Lady Patricia and bringing her pleasure.’
This was, it would seem a symbiotic relationship. Everything they told me suggested that, at home at least, this relatively senior public servant, Bill, enjoyed the discipline that comes from being owned, and they both clearly considered Bill owned. Bill was certainly quiet, reserved and respectful while i was with them, but he at no stage looked unhappy or upset, even when receiving a ‘clip behind the ear’ for ‘forgetting his manners’.
It was equally clear that there was very little interaction with their lifestyle and the work lives. Perhaps the only readily evident interaction between the home lives of these two ‘DS life-stylers’ and the work lives of these two public servants was the fact that Bill was required to be in a chastity device 24/7 unless he was going through security at an airport or having sex with his owner.
According to Pat, 24/7 chastity improves Bills behaviour, making him more docile, less obviously excited, much less able to do anything about being excited, very ready for satisfaction when it was offered and just a little nervous. This was apparently just how she liked him, and pretty much how Bill liked himself.
I asked Pat, if Bill could explain to me about their home life. Bill explained that he was responsible for all house work and cooking. In addition to her slave, Bill was his owner’s maid, and he loved it, apparently.
He explained that he was not allowed to wear anything but a collar, leash and chastity device when at home. He also explained that he was cuffed to sleep, making him very much available to be ‘used’ but his owner when she was in need of anything. He was the last to bed at night and the first up in the mornings. He was the first in the shower, and after his post shower inspection was required to organise breakfast while his owner get ready for work. He dressed for work when told to and not before.
I asked about rules and Pat outlined a list that it must have taken Bill some time to learn and remember. He had to keep his body clean and was required to ‘manscape’ completely at least once a week. He was required to eat well and exercise, He was only allowed to consume alcohol when given permission and was never allowed to drink so much it was not safe to drive.
Bill needed permission to enter or leave a room his owner was in, to use the toilet, to speak and to do a whole lot of other things I cannot remember now. Not only that, but he really enjoyed all of this, or so he said.
In the fourth and final part in this series we will examine the very active sex life that Lady Patricia and Bill enjoyed. It was very different to that enjoyed by their friends, Jim and Sandra.
BLOCK BUSTER BLOGS
Watch out for the Life’s Hierarchy Block Buster Blog on the 27th of each months.
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CASUAL MENTORING SERVICES
All members can now book Mentoring sessions with one of our 4 Mentors – for a fee of $30.00
All you have to do is go to the SHOP and book a session with your preferred Mentor.
If you are interested in becoming a Mentor and feel you have the experience to support Members, please email – lifeshierarchy@gmail.com and register your interest.
MENTORING FOR PREMIUM MEMBERS
Premium Members can nominate a preferred mentor. Monthly mentoring sessions of 20-minute durations can then be scheduled on a monthly basis – or more frequently as required. This service is available to Dominant, submissive, male, female, heterosexual, bisexual, pansexual and homosexual, monogamous and polyamorous members.
Mentors can:
Provide comfort and support
Answer questions and concerns
Help address issues as they arise
Provide guidance and ideas
Offer a sounding board
Assist in developing a plan
Provide recommended actions
This service is unique to Life’s Hierarchy and exclusive to members of the club. This service is designed to ensure that members get the most out of their involvement in the D/s lifestyle and their various kinks.
No issues are off limits for discussion with mentors.
To find out more – CLICK HERE
TOPICS OF INTEREST
What topics are you interested in hearing about in:
Discussions
Webinars
Forums
Events
Training
Please email us with your suggestions – CLICK HERE
FORUM FOR MEMBERS
So really interesting conversations are underway on the Club FORUM. Have a look, post a comment or open your own discussion. It is easy and it is fun – CLICK HERE
MEMBER SERVICES
MEMBER services currently available include:
Forums – where you can discuss anything of interest
Stories – reading and writing great true and not so true stories
Group chat- chat with Club members in absolute privacy
Podcasts – learn more about the ins and outs of the D/s lifestyle
Discussions – listen to experienced players discuss their experiences
Webinars – an online learning programme
Opportunities – listings of opportunities for members in the community
Shop – where you can buy an increasing number of high-quality goods
Mentoring – one to one conversations with experienced senior members
Services to be launched in 2021 include:
Confessionals – the opportunity to confess and do penance
Gallery – the best Club photographs and videos
Match Making – to help you find play and life partners
Suggestions regarding additional services are most welcome.
Members are the heart and soul of Life’s Hierarchy and as such feedback from members is always welcome. Email – lifeshierarchy@gmail.com . Every enquiry will receive a response.
CODE OF CONDUCT
It is the ambition of the Mentors (the foundation Committee) to develop Life’s Hierarchy into a Club that adds real value to members of the BDSM community and devotees of Dominance and submission. Our highest priority will always be the welfare of our members and in particular their safety, security and privacy. Please bring to our attention any behaviour inconsistent with Club values. Those values include:
Discretion
Respect
Honesty
Honour
Consent
Read more about our values and protocols – all designed to protect members – CLICK HERE
SID D – Moderator