September 30, 2021
LIFE’S HIERARCHY
Life’s Hierarchy is an exclusive club for professional people who live, want to live or want to explore the ‘Dominant’ or submission’ lifestyle and its many manifestations and associated fantasies.
AUGUST/SEPTEMBER PROGRAMME
Podcasts – August 30
Discussion – September 22 –
Training – October 20, 24 and 25
Next Newsletter – October 20
Blockbuster Blog – September 27 and October 27
Events – TBC
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TOPICS OF INTEREST
What topics are you interested in hearing about in:
Discussions
Webinars
Forums
Events
Training
Please email us with your suggestions – CLICK HERE
HAVE YOUR SAY – AND CAUSE CHANGE
Each month we will ask two questions we would like members to answer so that we can continually improve Life’s Hierarchy.
To answer these questions and cause change – simply email lifeshierarchy@gmail.com
1. What could be done to increase how often you visit the Life’s Hierarchy website?
2. What could be done to make the Life’s Hierarchy site easier to use?
FREE – UPCOMMING ONLINE DISCUSSIONS
Training a slave – September 22, 2021
Rules and Protocols – October 18, 2021
High Protocol Dinners – December 14, 2021
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INTERESTING VIDEO
Each month we will post an interesting video. Here is this month’s offering – CLICK HERE
Life’s Hierarchy will be developing a resource centre with many such videos.
HOST A WEBINAR OR DISCUSSION
If you would like to host a WEBINAR or DISCUSSION, register your interest by emailing lifeshierarchy@gmail.com. Tell us the topic and we will see of we can incorporate you into our programme for the year. We can also provide the technology and audience.
A THOUGHT FROM MESTRA
SERVICE
There are many different types of service.
Sexual Service – being used to provide sexual pleasure
Body Service – massage, pedicure, manicure
Domestic Service – cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, cooking
Butler Service – receiving guests, serving food/drinks, cigar service
Household Service – gardening, pool maintenance, home repair
Public Event Service – helping during public scenes and parties, equipment setup, being used for public performances
Administration Service – answering phones, managing diary, research, secretarial duties
IT Service – website developer/admin, social media manager
Equipment Service – building equipment eg spanking bench, making toys eg flogger, toy/equipment repair
Any skill or hobby can be used for service if you have the skills to provide it, and it is desired and/or useful for the Dominant/Owner. Eg. reading poetry to them while they bathe, or preparing their tax returns, washing their car.
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PODCAST
Listen to the latest MY LIFE MY WAY interview – with WIZARD.
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There are many more just like this on the Life’s Hierarchy site
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WANT TO BE INTERVIEWED FOR A PODCAST?
Every month, I will try to record at least two interviews with Members to be published on the site as a podcast. The identity of the Members is of course kept confidential.
Interviews are audio only and take about 45 minutes to record. The resulting podcasts are available to all members and represent an excellent may of sharing experiences.
If you are happy to be interviewed and to reveal your deepest secrets – please email me on – lifeshierarchy@gmail.com
FEATURED BLOG
Studying both psychology and statistics at university taught me, among other things that the term ‘normal’ has little value, other than as a descriptor in naming the ‘normal distribution curve’. It is very difficult to identify people who are truly ‘normal’. One of the things we learned from the recent ABS census is that only 68,000 Australians were, statistically speaking ‘normal’.
This would suggest that the other 24,000,000 of us are abnormal. And, in a sense, we are.
That said, most people, from time to time ask themselves how ‘normal’ they are or how ‘normal’ their feelings, thoughts, attitudes and behaviours are. Research suggest that many people fear not being ‘normal’ or at least not being perceived by themselves and others as ‘normal’. further, research suggests that this fear of having what might be considered abnormal feelings, thought or attitudes curtain their behaviour and prevent them from doing things they want to do.
One area of life where this is more common, is sex.
So, when it comes to sex, how ‘normal’ are your feelings, thoughts and attitudes? How ‘normal’ are your fantasies? How normal are the things do, but more interestingly, the things you would like to do but don’t have the courage to do?
Canadian research (by Christian Joyal – of the University of Montreal- Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders – DSM-5) found as follows. With regard to the number of people who have various sexual fantasies:
Oral sex
– Men – 87.6%
– Women – 78.5%
Unusual places
– Men – 82.3%
– Women – 81.7%
Non-spousal/partner
– Men – 83.45
– Women -66.3%
Masturbating the partner
– Men – 76.4%
– 68.1%
Having sex with two women
– Men – 84.5%
– Women – 36.9%
Having sex with a stranger
– Men – 61.9%
– Women – 48.9%
Being dominated sexually
– Men – 53.3%
– Women – 64.8%
Dominating someone sexually
– Men – 59.6%
– Women – 46.7%
Having anal sex
– Men – 64.2%
– Women – 32.5%
Tying someone up
– Men – 48.4%
– Women – 41.7%
Having sex with two men
– Men – 45.2%
– Women – 30.9%
My partner ejaculating on me
– Men – 28.7%
– Women – 41.3%
These statistics are just the ‘tip’ of the ice berg. I will report many more in a future article.
For now, these statistics seem to me to give rise to a number of questions for people concerned about the ‘normality’ of their fantasies.
They include:
Do a significant number of others have similar fantasies to you?
Does it seem likely that your partner might have fantasies similar to yours?
Is it time you shared your fantasies, especially with your partner?
I have no idea where fantasies come from, but there is no doubt that most of us have them, and in my view, so long as no-one gets hurt, all of us should live our or fantasies.
No regrets is a great philosophy in this regard
Watch out for my next article on sexual fantasies and behaviour.
In the mean-time, you should be assured that no matter what your fantasy, many others also have it. You are almost certainly ‘normal’. You are also okay to act it out so long as no one gets hurt, all parties are consenting, and all are over 18
BLOCK BUSTER BLOGS
Watch out for the Life’s Hierarchy Block Buster Blog on the 27th of each months.
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CASUAL MENTORING SERVICES
All members can now book Mentoring sessions with one of our 4 Mentors – for a fee of $30.00
All you have to do is go to the SHOP and book a session with your preferred Mentor.
If you are interested in becoming a Mentor and feel you have the experience to support Members, please email – lifeshierarchy@gmail.com and register your interest.
MENTORING FOR SOCIETY MEMBERS
Society or premium Members can nominate a preferred mentor. Monthly mentoring sessions of 20-minute durations can then be scheduled on a monthly basis – or more frequently as required. This service is available to Dominant, submissive, male, female, heterosexual, bisexual, pansexual and homosexual, monogamous and polyamorous members.
Mentors can:
Provide comfort and support
Answer questions and concerns
Help address issues as they arise
Provide guidance and ideas
Offer a sounding board
Assist in developing a plan
Provide recommended actions
This service is unique to Life’s Hierarchy and exclusive to members of the club. This service is designed to ensure that members get the most out of their involvement in the D/s lifestyle and their various kinks.
No issues are off limits for discussion with mentors.
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FORUM FOR MEMBERS
So really interesting conversations are underway on the Club FORUM. Have a look, post a comment or open your own discussion. It is easy and it is fun – CLICK HERE
MEMBER SERVICES
MEMBER services currently available include:
Forums – where you can discuss anything of interest
Stories – reading and writing great true and not so true stories
Group chat- chat with Club members in absolute privacy
Podcasts – learn more about the ins and outs of the D/s lifestyle
Discussions – listen to experienced players discuss their experiences
Webinars – an online learning programme
Opportunities – listings of opportunities for members in the community
Shop – where you can buy an increasing number of high-quality goods
Mentoring – one to one conversations with experienced senior members
Services to be launched in 2021 include:
Confessionals – the opportunity to confess and do penance
Gallery – the best Club photographs and videos
Match Making – to help you find play and life partners
Suggestions regarding additional services are most welcome.
Members are the heart and soul of Life’s Hierarchy and as such feedback from members is always welcome. Email – lifeshierarchy@gmail.com . Every enquiry will receive a response.
CODE OF CONDUCT
It is the ambition of the Mentors (the foundation Committee) to develop Life’s Hierarchy into a Club that adds real value to members of the BDSM community and devotees of Dominance and submission. Our highest priority will always be the welfare of our members and in particular their safety, security and privacy. Please bring to our attention any behaviour inconsistent with Club values. Those values include:
Discretion
Respect
Honesty
Honour
Consent
Read more about our values and protocols – all designed to protect members – CLICK HERE
SID D – Moderator