A Checklist
There are lots of other checklists out there on the web. This is a concoction from a few, feel free to use/edit as you wish. This one includes service which I haven’t seen on others.
This is a STANDARD checklist. Many things on it aren’t applicable, but it does give me information about you. ENJOY completing it. Even the completion itself and imagining each scenario is a memorable experience. Don’t be too fussy with it – it will change over time :-).
| NO (or 0) means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit). | ||
| If you honestly don’t know – leave it blank | ||
| 1 means you don’t want to do or don’t like to do this activity, but wouldn’t object if it was asked of you. | ||
| 2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you. | ||
| 3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis. | ||
| 4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis. | ||
| 5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible. | ||
| Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for me to know. For example, under “uniforms” you might have a different fetish for military versus police. Also note if there are different scores for different parts of the activity eg. small butt plugs may be a 5, but speculum may be a 1. | ||
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Activity This a way for me to get to know you better – a STANDARD checklist. Not all these items
are ‘on offer’, nor are they all a requirement on your part. |
Experience | Willingness |
| (yes/no) | (NO or 1-5) | |
| · Age play | ||
| · Anal play (dildos ie pegging, beads, ice, butt plugs small or large, figging, speculum) | ||
| · Anal Sex – Giving | ||
| · Anal Sex – Receiving | ||
| · Anal Training | ||
| · Animal roles (puppy, pony, etc.) | ||
| · Anticipation | ||
| · Auctioned for charity | ||
| · Being bitten | ||
| · Bondage (light) – (immobilisation, handcuffs, harness, spreader bar) | ||
| · Bondage (heavy) – (manacles & irons, chains) | ||
| · Bondage – (bondage in public under clothing or multi-day) | ||
| · Bondage – (while sleeping) | ||
| · Breath Play (breath control, choking, face smothering, masks) | ||
| · Caning | ||
| · Cock & ball torture (ball kicking, ball stretching etc) / Pussy Torture | ||
| · Chastity | ||
| · Clothing (latex, leather, PVC, lace, spandex, lycra) | ||
| · Clothespegs, zips | ||
| · Cock control (rings, straps, gates of hell) | ||
| · Collars or symbolic jewellery (worn in private or in public) | ||
| · Confinement (isolation, cages, cells) | ||
| · Cross-Dressing (sissification, make-up, lingerie) | ||
| · Cuckolding | ||
| · Dollification | ||
| · Electroplay | ||
| · Enemas | ||
| · Examinations (physical) | ||
| · Exercise (forced/required) | ||
| · Exhibitionism (for friends and/or strangers) | ||
| · Fear | ||
| · Feminisation | ||
| · Fire play, fire massage | ||
| · Fisting | ||
| · Forced bi | ||
| · Forced nudity (in private at events or in public) | ||
| · Gags (cloth, phallic, rubber, tape) | ||
| · Games and Challenges (small group, mild humiliation) | ||
| · Given away to another Top (temporarily or permanently) | ||
| · Group scenes (play parties) | ||
| · Hand jobs / Fingering (giving) | ||
| · Hand jobs / Fingering (receiving) | ||
| · Homage / Hand and/or Foot Worship | ||
| · Homage / Pussy Worship | ||
| · Homage / Boot or Shoe Worship | ||
| · Humiliation (in private) | ||
| · Humiliation (in public) (verbal, physical, diapers, body control etc) | ||
| · Hypnosis | ||
| · Impact play with implements (flogging, paddles, riding crop etc) | ||
| · Impact play with hands/nails (face slapping, body slapping, punching) | ||
| · Kissing | ||
| · Knife play (sensation, abrasion) | ||
| · Marking (temporary or lasting for hours or days) (bruises, abrasions, scratches, tatooing, branding) | ||
| · Marking (permanent) (tatooing, branding, cutting, cell popping, scarification) | ||
| · Masturbation (forced, encouraged, watched, allowed) | ||
| · Medical Play | ||
| · Modeling for erotic photos | ||
| · Mummification | ||
| · Needle Play | ||
| · Nipple (clamps, torture, weights) | ||
| · Oral Sex (giving to women) | ||
| · Oral Sex (giving to men) | ||
| · Oral Sex (receiving) | ||
| · Outdoor (scenes, rope or sex) | ||
| · Pain (mild or severe) | ||
| · Piercing (temporary) | ||
| · Power exchange | ||
| · Predicament positions or challenges (eg how long can you stay in that position with nipple clamps on) | ||
| · Rape fantasy | ||
| · Restrictions (behaviour, speech ie what to say, food ie what to eat, clothes ie what to wear, bathroom use) | ||
| · Restrictive Clothing (arm binders, straight jackets, lockable shoes etc) | ||
| · Rituals | ||
| · Saline injections in balls/breasts | ||
| · Scat | ||
| · Scenes (medical, military, prison, interrogation, religious, punishment, school, kidnapping) | ||
| · Sensation play | ||
| · Sensory deprivation (blindfold, masks, hoods, ear plugs/music) | ||
| · Shaving/Hair removal (body hair) | ||
| · Shibari / rope (tying) | ||
| · Shibari / rops (being tied) | ||
| · Slave positions (learning positions, standing in corner, kneeling) | ||
| · Spanking (over the knee) | ||
| · Spitting | ||
| · Sploshing (food play) | ||
| · Strap-ons (giving) | ||
| · Strap-ons (receiving) | ||
| · Suspension (rope) | ||
| · Swinging | ||
| · Tasks (given between play sessions) | ||
| · Teasing | ||
| · Temperature play (chilli, ice, heat, cold) | ||
| · TENS Machine | ||
| · Third person (addition of a third person to the play) | ||
| · Tickling | ||
| · Uniforms (specify) | ||
| · Urethral play (catheterisation, urethral sounding) | ||
| · Voyeurism (watching others) | ||
| · Video (watching or recording) | ||
| · Water sports (golden showers) | ||
| · Wax Play | ||
| · Whipping | ||
| · Wrestling | ||
| Service “Service submission involves doing real work so your Mistress won’t have to. It’s about making Her life easier, without necessarily expecting something in return.” (http://www.submissiveguide.com/2011/01/some-thoughts-on-domestic-service/) | ||
| · Chauffeuring | ||
| · Cooking | ||
| · Domestic Service (Cleaning) | ||
| · Domestic Service (Laundry) | ||
| · Gardening | ||
| · Grocery Shopping | ||
| · Event Planning | ||
| · Hair Colouring/Dye | ||
| · Household Maintenance | ||
| · Intellectual Conversationalist – Function Escort | ||
| · Massage (Back) | ||
| · Massage (Feet) | ||
| · Manicures | ||
| · Making toys (handyman/carpentry/craft) | ||
| · Maintaining and caring for clothes | ||
| · Maintaining and caring for shoes | ||
| · Maintaining and cleaning toys and equipment | ||
| · Officework (taking phone calls, organising mail, making diary appointments, writing letters etc) | ||
| · Pedicures | ||
| · Pool Maintenance | ||
| · Research (done in your own time/location) | ||
| · Running Errands (eg filling car with fuel, posting mail etc) | ||
| · Service (general – getting drink, lighting cigarettes, following basic instructions – in private) | ||
| · Service (general – getting drink, lighting cigarettes, following basic instructions – at public events) | ||
| · Serving (objectification as art, furniture etc) | ||
| · Serving (waiter) | ||
| · Serving other Tops (supervised or unsupervised) | ||
| · Social Media ‘Secretary’ and/or Website Developer | ||
| · Pet care (washing/walking) | ||
| · Vehicle Maintenance | ||
| · Other | ||
| Aftercare Preferences | ||
| · Cuddles | ||
| · Snacks, sugar | ||
| · Sex | ||
| · Other | ||
| Do you own any sex toys, bondage equipment, or other erotica? If so, describe. | ||
| Your sexual orientation is: Straight / Gay or Lesbian / Bi-Sexual / Bi-Curious | ||
| Your experience level is: Beginner / A Little Bit / Average / A Lot / Extensive | ||
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I prefer a relationship to be: Monogamous / Polyamorous / Open / Doesn’t Matter /
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| Details of Medical Conditions / Physical Limitations or Medications that I need to know about: | ||
| Date and results of last STI tests | ||