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We all have expectations. We may not write them down or immortalise them, or even share them, but they exist. Every time we go out for a meal at our favourite restaurant we have expectations that:- - The place still...

Unfortunately, there are still an alarming number of people who think their sexual tastes make them abnormal. Perhaps the best way to dispel these feelings of abnormality is to present some facts. Here are what some of the many surveys...

The premise that slaves can't negotiate is complicated. In a Total Power Exchange (TPE) the Master/Mistress/Owner (M type) controls the slave entirely. That doesn't mean they have to micro-manage, slaves are capable human beings in their own right, but the...

 While participating in an online discussion for Life’s Hierarchy last evening on the subject of Kink in Public, it was suggested to me and others participating that there is an expectation in some quarters that consent is required for all...

I don’t embrace any religious philosophy or morality. Indeed, I would argue that religion is almost by definition immoral and most certainly unethical. That said, I do embrace the importance of morality – a notion that predates religion. Humans had...

I don’t embrace any religious philosophy or morality. Indeed, I would argue that religion is almost by definition immoral and most certainly unethical. That said, I do embrace the importance of morality – a notion that predates religion. Humans had...

The answer to the provocative headline for this blog is simple – you, me, and everyone else. Further to this, I would argue that consent is the biggest issue that people practising a D/s lifestyle or participating in BDSM activities...

The aim of this role is to:- answer your questionsprovide information/educationhelp to vett potential play partners/dynamicsprovide moral support at events, skillshares and/or discussionsprovide reality checks between expectations, porn and real lifefacilitate opportunities for kinky experiences eg fire play, electro etcbe...

 In a recent interview, I was asked about a statement made by my slave relating to my measuring her waist and subjecting her to 'waiste training'. Well, the fact is, I do measure my slave's waiste every Wednesday night. I...

Some people react very negatively (freeze, fight, fawn response) to people touching them, their clothes, their hair or jewelry. Being triggered in this way by touch is a trauma response. A more likely ('normal') response is acceptance, mild discomfort, or...