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AUGUST 2021 From the more obvious perspectives, sex is very different from food. An individual can survive a month without sex (albeit with difficulty) but will struggle to survive that long without food. From another perspective, the pursuit of and...

Mestra and I recently hosted an online discussion on the subject of slave contracts. You might like to listen to the recording. It has been posted on Life's Hierarchy as a podcast. In the introduction to this discussion, we noted...

 In 2021 people with significant assets would be foolish to marry without a pre-nuptial agreement. Most smart people I know (and especially those who come together later in life) have one. I certainly have one. In 2021, only the foolish...

During last nights discussion group we had a topic about Non Sexual Kink. It seemed to all of us to be an easy and quick topic .. but we quickly had to reconsider.  Our immediate reaction was ‘of course there...

Jealousy can be a difficult habit to break. It is an anticipatory emotion to avoid someone taking what we value, usually a relationship.  Jealousy can include anger, fear, abandonment, grief, resentment, feelings of inadequacy, helplessness, humiliation and anxiety. Jealousy is...

This month’s blockbuster blog is not so much an observation or statement as it is a question. The question is – ‘How does BDSM shed its grotty image?’ Of course, in posing the question, I am implicitly implying that BDSM...

There is an old parable that goes something like this – ''When we are young - we care what people think of us. When we are middle-aged – do not care what people think about us and when we are...

Over the past six months, I have conducted a number of interviews on the subject, MY LIFE – MY WAY. The core theme is that so long as it does not negatively impact anyone else – everyone has the right...

Whether we are consciously aware of them or not, everyone has personal values. The highest priority ones can be identified as personal core values. Personal values generate behaviour and dictate how we solve problems. Surprisingly, it’s not common practice to...

‘Drop’ is the depletion of hormones in the body and neurotransmitters in the brain after a peak in levels during play.  See my previous post for more info on recognising drop and what it is. Once you’ve recognised it, there...